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Soooooo… today, I’m laying face down on a massage table, in the middle of what was a very unremarkable massage, when I heard the following two words in my mind, “limiting beliefs”. I had the most powerful urge to ask the therapist to write the words down. I quickly realized she would not have a pen, so, I lay there repeating them over in my mind, as not to forget.

Beliefs are very powerful tools of the mind. Beliefs about ourselves, our society, our planet, all play a huge role in how we live our daily lives. Our reality is shaped by these beliefs. One of my personal favorite beliefs is that hard work is rewarded with results, in any situation. I believe that if I work very hard and apply myself to a situation, the results will be positive. This is a belief that I was taught by my parents. It’s been so useful in my life and I pass it on to others with enthusiasm.

But what about beliefs that are limiting? First of all, just saying those words feels like letting the air out of a birthday balloon, it just deflates your spirit! There are so many of us walking through life carrying mental lists of limiting beliefs. We may be conscious of them or not, but they sabotage our efforts to live full happy lives. Notice how your body feels when you recognize a limiting belief. For me it feels like complete exhaustion and bewilderment. Not one part of that limiting belief feels peaceful or empowering.

Being able to recognize a belief that limits you is the first step towards releasing it. Awareness creates an environment that encourages us to challenge and change these beliefs. Spend some time writing down your own limiting beliefs. Or, work backwards, what in your life is causing you pain and disappointment? Look around the situation, do you see a limiting belief that is the culprit?

Limitlessly believing in ourselves is the only way to go in this life!  Try it for yourself… ♥

Oh dear, I broke my toe this week…  I didn’t even know it happened!  You know how sometimes, you just bang your foot against a door or piece of furniture?  You make the necessary motions to acknowledge the pain.  I’m  laughing thinking about this.  It happened on Monday morning.  I was so focused on all that I needed to accomplish that week, I didn’t even flinch really.  I just kept right on going.  Of course wearing the wrong shoes and then going in and out of the subway about 50 times.  You see where I’m going with this right… Denial.

So, when I finally made it home, and took off my shoe, I saw the most pitiful sight.  My poor toe was purple, swollen, and looking slightly out of joint.  The only thought that came into my head was… how am I going to make it through all of my appointments with this swollen, non functioning toe?  I gave her NO down time…

I Googled “broken toe”.  I know you are laughing right now.  Seriously, I think Google is the high priestess of the everyday situation.  Since I was clearly not going to the doctor, Google would have to suffice.  This is when the interesting thing happened.  I discovered the “buddy toe”.  It makes me laugh just thinking about it.  When your toe is broken, you tape it to the toe next to it, “the buddy”, to provide stability until the healing process can finish.   So, I taped the broken toe to its buddy and continued on with my week.  The ship kept sailing, so to speak.

The buddy toe got me thinking about how some of us are wounded in life and keep going.  There is no time to stop.  We have to be the functioning wounded.   We don’t even acknowledge our wounds, for fear they will keep us from participating in life.  It can be draining to carry these wounds in and out of our days.  What if we were to “tape” ourselves to a “buddy” while this wound is healing?  I am thinking of someone in your life who is functioning and capable of being strong for both of you.  You infuse yourself with the strength and energy of the other until you are able to go on your own,  just like the buddy toe.

Think about it… give yourself the gift of the “buddy toe” when you need it and share your “strong toe” with another when you are able.  The healing process will strengthen you both… ♥

A friend forwarded me this image the other day…  It made me laugh out loud!  I have an August birthday, so I am a Lion by birth.  Also, because I used to have a cat named Mosie who looked just like the kitty in the picture.  His body resembled the kitty, but his personality was definitely like the Lion.  We spent 8 years together as roommates, before he died.    He was not my friend, or my son, he was my roommate.  We struggled and fought and ignored and occasionally loved each other, but he was hands down the most loyal companion and highly protective.   He had this whole self-image thing down.  He saw himself as a LION every day.  Even when he clearly looked like the kitty!

Working in the fashion industry is all about image.  It’s constant scrutiny and very subjective.  One day you are IN, the next you are OUT.  It can take its toll on your self-image over time.  I often wonder if it’s really a good idea to bring young men and women into the industry so early…  You have to be so strong inside.

Seeing yourself  for the natural beauty inside is the most wonderful thing, it brings you peace.    When you express yourself in your most authentic form in the world, no amount of outside scrutiny can deplete you.  Living authentically is a source of beauty 24/7.   All that other outside stuff is just fluff!  So…  How are you going to see yourself today?  Why not take a lesson from Mosie and see yourself as the perfect LION that you are?  ♥

Yesterday, I spent the entire afternoon at one of my favorite places in the world…  the BEACH!  It was just a beautiful day.  There was a slight breeze, the water was warm and crystal clear, the sky was blue, the waves were gentle…  You can visualize the day, right?  It was heaven on earth.

When I spend time at the beach, I always observe the beauty that is evident all around me.  Yesterday, I became engrossed with picking up beach rocks, not shells, the rocks!  What a day it was for my search.  I found so much variety.  There were all shapes, sizes, colors, textures, you name it.  Each one was more beautiful than the next.  While some were pure in color, they had beautiful shapes.  Others were expertly colored and textured.  The sizes ranged from tiny to enormous… can you see where I’m going with this?

As I walked along picking them up for my collection, I was struck by how much these rocks reminded me of people.  Each one was so unique and a complete masterpiece, just the way people are.  Mother Nature has the most diverse palette and she paints each of us expertly.  It’s our job to recognize uniqueness and beauty in each other. 

Try looking at your brothers and sisters of the world with a different lens.  Can you see the masterpiece in front of you?  Acknowledge them with wonder and love. ♥ 

I know you are laughing right now!  I mean, who doesn’t know that “WD-40” can fix any problem you have around the house?  “WD” stands for water displacing and “40” indicates the number of tries it took them to get the formula right… but I digress, its lip gloss I really want to discuss! I have watched women of all ages, races, social status, and religion,  pull out lip gloss and it apply it when they are in a pinch.

This application of lip gloss fixes many common problems associated with womanhood.  For example, did you know, when you are feeling extra blue, applying lip gloss will instantly pick up your mood.  Some believe the heaviness in application, has a direct correlation to the mood of the wearer!  Now I’m laughing.  I’ve seen women reapply lip gloss in regular intervals, just as a protective measure.  Young women think lip gloss makes them look so mature and older women use the reverse logic.  Purchasing lip gloss, is as good as buying an insurance policy against the blues.  

What I like most about lip gloss is that it makes us remember ourselves for a moment.  It’s a little kiss we give ourselves.  Sometimes that little moment is more healing and uplifting than any gesture from our friends or family.  So ladies, let the lip gloss flow!  Buy extras, to keep in emergency locations, experiment with brighter colors and give it as gifts.  The next time someone asks for a can of WD-40, you know what to hand them… your lip gloss!

I had an early morning conversation with one of my clients the other day.  I asked her at what age it was going to be ok to stop trying to be beautiful before you leave the house in the morning.  We both had a good laugh and exchanged stories of last minute hair and shoe changes, etc.  Then she said the most wonderful thing…

She said at a certain point you become wise, and you realize all the external stuff relating to beauty is just fluff and in this wise moment you become truly beautiful.  She went on to share with me a tragedy that affected her very early in her life.  It filled her with shame and kept her from really living in her own beauty. Her own wise moment followed a very challenging life circumstance.

I was completely surprised that she shared such a personal story with me.  I also knew right away what a wonderful message she was passing on to me.  Now I’m passing it on to you all, there is nothing more beautiful than a wise woman!  ♥

This is a difficult one to write, so it must mean I should keep going.  They always say, if you are afraid to do something, that means you MUST do it.  Here goes…    Can anyone really be OK with alone?  

There are times in life when you are just alone in it.  It’s quiet, not the quiet I wrote about yesterday, but seriously quiet.  It can be when you first move away from home, when your kids move out of the house, when you divorce, when your spouse or pet dies.  There are any number of reasons for this to occur, but you feel it.  There is no one at the door or in the kitchen when you arrive at the end of the day.  You see it, right?

Alone usually comes with a big transition in life, as the examples I mentioned above.  When you find yourself in the middle of this alone, how do you fill up your time?  The obvious things come to mind, like friends, neighbors, classes, projects, travel, etc.  The more you schedule, the less time you have to realize that you are alone!  Mostly, I think it’s about reaching out so that people know you are alone.  You may need additional phone time or drop by visits from your friends until you are through the transition.  What keeps you from feeling alone when you are not engaged in your schedule?  I started to write for this very reason and I have been both surprised and delighted by the community of bloggers who are there to share the journey with me.

Even more than that, I’ve had to learn that alone is OK.  This is a huge statement.  We spend so much of our lives trying to find that perfect partner or situation, so we will be guaranteed there is no alone.  One way or another, life will hand you alone time.  The relationship you have with yourself is what’s most important.  Learning to be your own friend and feeling loved and cared for by YOU, is one of the best skills you can have in life.  What does alone feel like for you?  How can you develop that relationship with yourself?  ♥

Sometimes you are rolling along in life, thinking everything is status quo, moving through your days and nights, until IT happens.  The Red Flag is thrown.  This can be anything, an accident, a financial reversal, a health crisis, the end result is that you are forced to face something you have been ignoring for a very long time.  The universe is basically telling you that its time to snap out of it, and deal with whatever has been lurking on the back burner.

The size of the red flag is in direct relationship to your need to address the problem.  Some red flags are little, in fact they are so little, that you can possibly ignore them.  This, of course, is a bad idea, but we all do it.  It works for  a while until the next red flag is thrown.  This time its a little larger and harder to sweep away.  You see the point I’m making.  Ignoring your red flags can only lead to setbacks and suffering.  You have to face head on what you have been denying or hiding.  It takes effort and courage to face a red flag, but it’s also a great time to make a 180 degree turn in your life.  Think of it as coming to the fork in the road… now you will choose to go a different direction.

Can you think of any red flags that you have been ignoring?  Have you had any giant upsets in the past because you ignored too many of them?  Remember, the universe is always communicating with us, if we choose to be aware and accept the information.  Use these reminders to make changes for the better.  ♥

I’ve been watching Seabiscuit on HBO.  Let’s just say I’ve seen this movie a lot!  The horse is born to be a thoroughbred, but along the way, is categorized as “less than”.  Over time he is trained to lose races to give other, more promising horses some confidence from the win.  He is eventually picked up by an unlikely owner, trainer, and jockey  and given an opportunity to regain his lost magic.   Once he is given the attention and training he deserves, he begins to win races and reclaim his thoroughbred status.

All this discussion of thoroughbred status made me think about the old myth that horses are sent to “the glue factory” when they become out of commission.  At some point, a determination is made whether they have value or not, and this decision is made by an outsider.  Once they reach “the glue factory”, it’s the end of the line.

You know, we are all thoroughbreds inside, right from the very beginning.  Society has a way of making us feel like the “glue pony” from time to time.  We get side tracked, wait listed, passed over, and any number of wrong directions sent our way.  You may find yourself rethinking your own status.  Are you a thoroughbred or a glue pony?  Who determined your status?  Are you living like a glue pony, when you should be living like a thoroughbred?  Refuse to settle for anything less than the thoroughbred you are! ♥

Power is a word that commands attention…  People go to extraordinary lengths to gain and hold power.  We see examples of this all around us in everyday life.  I think of political parties, corporations, and media, as a few great examples of collective power.  What about your own personal power?  Personal power to me is so special.  Often times, we have no idea just how powerful we are as individuals.  We also don’t do a good job of harnessing this power to assist us in our lives.

Building power within yourself is both a journey and a relationship.  The relationship is the beginning of harnessing personal power.  It’s a relationship you have with yourself.  You identify activities and practices that give you strength.  I’m thinking both mental and physical strength.Physical strength is obvious.  Being strong in your body provides a good foundation for being strong in life.  Mental strength is a little tougher.  I think making difficult choices in life brings mental strength.  It’s so much easier to take the easy road, but every time you make a tough choice you become stronger.  Facing fears is also a way to gain mental strength.  Skirting an issue that causes fear, depletes your power.  As you gain these little victories, both mental and physical you are marking a trail on your journey.

The journey is personal to each individual.  You can also lose power along the road, but as long as you are honest with yourself, you will regain the power you lost and come back even stronger!  When you stand in the bounty of your own personal power, you are a force in the world.♥

What can you do to ignite and harness your personal power?  Get started!  It’s a relationship worthy of your time…

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