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Soooooo… today, I’m laying face down on a massage table, in the middle of what was a very unremarkable massage, when I heard the following two words in my mind, “limiting beliefs”. I had the most powerful urge to ask the therapist to write the words down. I quickly realized she would not have a pen, so, I lay there repeating them over in my mind, as not to forget.

Beliefs are very powerful tools of the mind. Beliefs about ourselves, our society, our planet, all play a huge role in how we live our daily lives. Our reality is shaped by these beliefs. One of my personal favorite beliefs is that hard work is rewarded with results, in any situation. I believe that if I work very hard and apply myself to a situation, the results will be positive. This is a belief that I was taught by my parents. It’s been so useful in my life and I pass it on to others with enthusiasm.

But what about beliefs that are limiting? First of all, just saying those words feels like letting the air out of a birthday balloon, it just deflates your spirit! There are so many of us walking through life carrying mental lists of limiting beliefs. We may be conscious of them or not, but they sabotage our efforts to live full happy lives. Notice how your body feels when you recognize a limiting belief. For me it feels like complete exhaustion and bewilderment. Not one part of that limiting belief feels peaceful or empowering.

Being able to recognize a belief that limits you is the first step towards releasing it. Awareness creates an environment that encourages us to challenge and change these beliefs. Spend some time writing down your own limiting beliefs. Or, work backwards, what in your life is causing you pain and disappointment? Look around the situation, do you see a limiting belief that is the culprit?

Limitlessly believing in ourselves is the only way to go in this life!  Try it for yourself… ♥

A friend forwarded me this image the other day…  It made me laugh out loud!  I have an August birthday, so I am a Lion by birth.  Also, because I used to have a cat named Mosie who looked just like the kitty in the picture.  His body resembled the kitty, but his personality was definitely like the Lion.  We spent 8 years together as roommates, before he died.    He was not my friend, or my son, he was my roommate.  We struggled and fought and ignored and occasionally loved each other, but he was hands down the most loyal companion and highly protective.   He had this whole self-image thing down.  He saw himself as a LION every day.  Even when he clearly looked like the kitty!

Working in the fashion industry is all about image.  It’s constant scrutiny and very subjective.  One day you are IN, the next you are OUT.  It can take its toll on your self-image over time.  I often wonder if it’s really a good idea to bring young men and women into the industry so early…  You have to be so strong inside.

Seeing yourself  for the natural beauty inside is the most wonderful thing, it brings you peace.    When you express yourself in your most authentic form in the world, no amount of outside scrutiny can deplete you.  Living authentically is a source of beauty 24/7.   All that other outside stuff is just fluff!  So…  How are you going to see yourself today?  Why not take a lesson from Mosie and see yourself as the perfect LION that you are?  ♥

Yesterday, I spent the entire afternoon at one of my favorite places in the world…  the BEACH!  It was just a beautiful day.  There was a slight breeze, the water was warm and crystal clear, the sky was blue, the waves were gentle…  You can visualize the day, right?  It was heaven on earth.

When I spend time at the beach, I always observe the beauty that is evident all around me.  Yesterday, I became engrossed with picking up beach rocks, not shells, the rocks!  What a day it was for my search.  I found so much variety.  There were all shapes, sizes, colors, textures, you name it.  Each one was more beautiful than the next.  While some were pure in color, they had beautiful shapes.  Others were expertly colored and textured.  The sizes ranged from tiny to enormous… can you see where I’m going with this?

As I walked along picking them up for my collection, I was struck by how much these rocks reminded me of people.  Each one was so unique and a complete masterpiece, just the way people are.  Mother Nature has the most diverse palette and she paints each of us expertly.  It’s our job to recognize uniqueness and beauty in each other. 

Try looking at your brothers and sisters of the world with a different lens.  Can you see the masterpiece in front of you?  Acknowledge them with wonder and love. ♥ 

I found myself looking through old photos the other night.  I have boxes of these things, all documenting my journey in life.  Every time I go through them, I am reminded of just how far I’ve come.  (I also think they need to be organized and in a better format… projects, projects!)

My life has been so different from what I imagined it would be as I was growing up.  I always imagined I’d have a big wedding, a big house, and a bunch of kids and dogs!  I didn’t even want to go to college.  I remember begging my parents to let me go to beauty school.  I could not understand why they wouldn’t let me just do “good hair”.   I never once thought that I would end up getting a Master’s degree, living in New York city, working in the fashion industry as a consultant, traveling the world, living in a condo, taking boxing classes, etc… You see where I’m going with this.

My life has been completely different from my imagination, yet it has exceeded my expectations for myself.  As I reviewed those photos, I see that the Universe has had a plan for me all along and I have been on course from the very beginning.  Just as Steve Jobs said in his famous speech, I have been able to look back and connect the dots that lead me to where I am today.  You know what?  I don’t always understand the events that come to pass, but I am grateful and I know that the “master plan” is in play.  I trust and have faith that my life is moving according to plan, even when I don’t recognize it!

How does your life look from the rearview mirror?  Do you see the path?  How does that make you feel?  Remember that we are all guided and trust that your path is unfolding exactly as it should. ♥

Seriously ladies, why is it so attractive to face the world wearing sky-high heels?  I don’t know the answer to this myself.  I only know that I am willing to go to great lengths to wear high heels, even at risk of injury.  I am also sneaky about the heels.  Platform shoes are a great way to sneak in the “high” while still maintaining some form of moderation.

It must be that your legs look extra long and firm while you are perching atop your heels.  We all know that long, gorgeous legs are the way to a man’s heart, right?  We also know that shoes always fit!  (See blog history for “Shoes Always Fit”)  We all want to be 5’11” in our bare feet, because then we can stretch out that extra weight.  I see the twisted logic.

What would it mean to face the world in sensible shoes?  Would it mean your entry into the beautiful woman club has been revoked?  How would your life change if you never, ever again wore high heels?  Wow, I am sad just writing those words…but you see the unspoken power of the high heel.

What is your philosophy about high heels?

(P.S.  The high heels above are beyond gorgeous, and are known in my world as “limo shoes”…meaning you are only wearing these in the limo!)

I saw the new movie “The Help” today.  It was very moving to me for a number of reasons.  I saw how much we’ve changed as a society since the 60’s, how women’s roles have changed, and how women’s friendships have remained the same.  Women look out for each other.

In particular, some women are “game changers”, by this I mean, they see things differently than others and are courageous enough change the game.  This often comes at great personal cost to themselves.  They envision a different world and take active steps to create the difference.  These women are to be celebrated and they come in all ages, races, sizes, and religions.  I salute them all!

Are YOU a game changer?  I would like to hear your voice.  What changes are you creating?

I recently had a conversation with my uncle about teachers.  We discussed the status of education today and how teachers handle very different classrooms today than 50 years ago.  While we were discussing the occupation of teaching, he said something interesting.  The good teachers consider this occupation their calling.  Its been so long since I heard that word.

Merriam-Webster defines calling as, a strong inner impulse toward a particular course of action especially when accompanied by conviction of divine influence.  I always associated a calling with religion and more specifically becoming a priest or nun.  As we talked about teachers, I realized this word has a more global application.

I talk a lot about having a strong connection between your mind and body.  What if finding your calling is just another way to be more joined to your spirit in everyday life?  I think one of the keys to being fulfilled in life, has to do with finding an occupation that is also a calling.

Take some time to quiet yourself and ask what a calling means to you.  How far away are you from being employed in your calling?  How would your life change if you were?  I’d love to know what you think!  I’m going to do this as well.  More to come…♥

Today is the first great woman spotlight.  Exciting!  This is really what this blog is about.  Wonderful, creative, hardworking, women who make a difference in the world.  There are so many out there.  I hope that this blog can be a spotlight for all of them.  I will begin by writing about someone who is special to me, but in the future, I would love to read about your great women.

Alejandra is a personal trainer.  She and her husband own a fitness studio called The EveryDay Athlete.  I met her about 6 years ago when I was having severe low back pain.  This woman is a giver.  She is a Mother, not just to her own child, but to every one she works with.  She does pre and post natal fitness for women, in addition to her private sessions and small group trainings.  She is from Chile by way of Costa Rica.  She came to this country, because she fell in love.  She left everything she knew to start a new life in New York with her now husband, Tomas.  She didn’t speak any english.  Talk about being out of your safety net!

What I admire most about her is her honesty.  She is sometimes brutal with the honesty.  I, on the other hand. and am always looking for the “right” answer, rather than just the facts.  I learned so much from her about my body and myself.  I learn something new each time I exercise with her.  Sometimes we are both surprised at the thoughts that arise during the course of a workout.  Sort of like physical therapy with a twist!  I learned that the stronger I feel in my body, the stronger I am in life.  I am grateful for her both as a teacher and a friend and I am delighted that she is my first spotlight.

Check her out at EverydayAthlete.com

Body Love, its huge, and may take several hundreds of posts to examine thoroughly, but let’s start with this one!

Today, I’m talking about the genuine love and respect you have for your body.  Hopefully, you realize that you have a body, and that you are not just a head roaming loose in the world.  🙂  I think I’ve spent most of my life as a roaming head!  Lately, I’m really exploring what it means to love and respect my body.

For me, loving my body is huge because it feeds, houses and clothes me, literally.  I make my living off of my body.  You know what, I rarely put it high on the priority list.  Instead, I demand from it every day the absolute maximum with no exceptions.  When I’m tired, I drink more caffeine.  I wear high heels, even when my feet hurt.  If I feel sick, I become impatient with the healing process.  I eat tortilla chips for dinner, a lot!  You get the picture.

Real body love means putting it number one on the list. ♥ It means recognizing that the body is not unlimited.  It needs gratitude, praise, attention, rest, pampering, exercise, play, knowledge, joy, nutrition, healing, and the list goes on.

How are you going to start a love affair with your body?

aspiration

 

Yesterday, I was taking my morning walk to enjoy what’s left of the summer.  The sky was a brilliant shade of blue.  All of the flowers were in full bloom, as is normal for this time of year.  I came across these morning glories growing up a fence.  Notice how they have covered the fence completely and now, having no place else to go, they are putting a ladder against the sky! 

How do we reach beyond what is safe and supportive into the unknown, by being courageous enough to leave the fence.  I can’t say it any clearer than that.

P.S.  Also, I notice the sky has “no limits” ♥

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