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Soooooo… today, I’m laying face down on a massage table, in the middle of what was a very unremarkable massage, when I heard the following two words in my mind, “limiting beliefs”. I had the most powerful urge to ask the therapist to write the words down. I quickly realized she would not have a pen, so, I lay there repeating them over in my mind, as not to forget.

Beliefs are very powerful tools of the mind. Beliefs about ourselves, our society, our planet, all play a huge role in how we live our daily lives. Our reality is shaped by these beliefs. One of my personal favorite beliefs is that hard work is rewarded with results, in any situation. I believe that if I work very hard and apply myself to a situation, the results will be positive. This is a belief that I was taught by my parents. It’s been so useful in my life and I pass it on to others with enthusiasm.

But what about beliefs that are limiting? First of all, just saying those words feels like letting the air out of a birthday balloon, it just deflates your spirit! There are so many of us walking through life carrying mental lists of limiting beliefs. We may be conscious of them or not, but they sabotage our efforts to live full happy lives. Notice how your body feels when you recognize a limiting belief. For me it feels like complete exhaustion and bewilderment. Not one part of that limiting belief feels peaceful or empowering.

Being able to recognize a belief that limits you is the first step towards releasing it. Awareness creates an environment that encourages us to challenge and change these beliefs. Spend some time writing down your own limiting beliefs. Or, work backwards, what in your life is causing you pain and disappointment? Look around the situation, do you see a limiting belief that is the culprit?

Limitlessly believing in ourselves is the only way to go in this life!  Try it for yourself… ♥

When was the last time you heard someone referred to as a “Master”?  I think about this mostly when it comes to golf.  You know, the Masters Tournament…  All those professional golfers coming together to compete at the height of their game.  They have honed their craft to a point that it becomes mastery.

What happens when you’ve reached the master level?  First of all you have to take a look at what it takes to become a master.  I have a personal theory that masters are created where skill, experience, and passion come together.  This perfect combination of qualities brings to life a higher level of expression.  It’s really a pleasure to watch a master at work, they are so present… 

When masters practice their craft for a long period of time, they become artists.  They place their own personal spin on the technicality of their work.  They have studied, experimented, and honed their craft so expertly that their creative mind takes over.  It breeds a new and ultimately unique level of achievement.  Experiencing mastery as it becomes art is a beautiful gift.

How do you experience mastery in your life?  Who do you see as a master?  Appreciate those around you who display mastery and encourage them to become artists…♥

Have you ever thought of how choice affects your life?  Think of all the decisions you make consciously or unconsciously on a daily basis.  Imagine them all creating a bigger picture…  This becomes your reality.  We are all constantly choosing our lives…  

That is a little hard to hear, right?  I mean, so many times I’ve heard people describing events that supposedly just “happened”.  I always wonder what choices were made prior to that moment.  I especially think of this when I encounter someone who has extraordinarily bad luck.  I mean, seriously, they get the whammy!  Mostly, I’m seeing the end result of a series of choices, some conscious, some unconscious.

Ok, but why am I writing about choice today?  Because, it’s possible to manifest all kinds of happiness, joy, and beauty in our lives by being conscious of our choices.  Not just the big choices, but the little ones too.  Try an experiment for this week.  If you are trying to welcome something into your life, think of how you are going to do it.  Now, each day, choose to do something that will lead you closer to your dream.  See how that series of choices affects your world.  Be patient.  Let me know how it goes…

Building a life based on choice is so empowering!  Experience it for yourself…♥

I’ve been watching Seabiscuit on HBO.  Let’s just say I’ve seen this movie a lot!  The horse is born to be a thoroughbred, but along the way, is categorized as “less than”.  Over time he is trained to lose races to give other, more promising horses some confidence from the win.  He is eventually picked up by an unlikely owner, trainer, and jockey  and given an opportunity to regain his lost magic.   Once he is given the attention and training he deserves, he begins to win races and reclaim his thoroughbred status.

All this discussion of thoroughbred status made me think about the old myth that horses are sent to “the glue factory” when they become out of commission.  At some point, a determination is made whether they have value or not, and this decision is made by an outsider.  Once they reach “the glue factory”, it’s the end of the line.

You know, we are all thoroughbreds inside, right from the very beginning.  Society has a way of making us feel like the “glue pony” from time to time.  We get side tracked, wait listed, passed over, and any number of wrong directions sent our way.  You may find yourself rethinking your own status.  Are you a thoroughbred or a glue pony?  Who determined your status?  Are you living like a glue pony, when you should be living like a thoroughbred?  Refuse to settle for anything less than the thoroughbred you are! ♥

Power is a word that commands attention…  People go to extraordinary lengths to gain and hold power.  We see examples of this all around us in everyday life.  I think of political parties, corporations, and media, as a few great examples of collective power.  What about your own personal power?  Personal power to me is so special.  Often times, we have no idea just how powerful we are as individuals.  We also don’t do a good job of harnessing this power to assist us in our lives.

Building power within yourself is both a journey and a relationship.  The relationship is the beginning of harnessing personal power.  It’s a relationship you have with yourself.  You identify activities and practices that give you strength.  I’m thinking both mental and physical strength.Physical strength is obvious.  Being strong in your body provides a good foundation for being strong in life.  Mental strength is a little tougher.  I think making difficult choices in life brings mental strength.  It’s so much easier to take the easy road, but every time you make a tough choice you become stronger.  Facing fears is also a way to gain mental strength.  Skirting an issue that causes fear, depletes your power.  As you gain these little victories, both mental and physical you are marking a trail on your journey.

The journey is personal to each individual.  You can also lose power along the road, but as long as you are honest with yourself, you will regain the power you lost and come back even stronger!  When you stand in the bounty of your own personal power, you are a force in the world.♥

What can you do to ignite and harness your personal power?  Get started!  It’s a relationship worthy of your time…

The world is full of people facing tough times, especially these days.  I’ve been thinking a lot about what it means to love and support someone through tough times.  It’s easy to share the laughs and celebrations, but what happens when someone you love suffers illness or hardship, you know, Tough Times…

Tough times bring with them big life lessons accompanied by strong emotions.  I’m thinking of anger, sadness, jealousy, guilt, shame, and there are a bunch of others.   How do we love someone who is facing all of that?  I’ve lived through some difficult situations myself, and I was humbled by the people who stepped up to see me through the storm.  These are the ways they were there to lift me up.

They sacrificed for me.  A good friend knows how to sacrifice for the sake of others.  There are times where you will need to give MORE of yourself and your resources than others.  You must give to your friend freely, without thought of repayment.

They didn’t judge me.  Of course, in hindsight, it’s always easier to see where we went wrong.  The decision or decisions that lead to the tough situation some how becomes clear after the fact.  A good friend is just present for you, without judgement.  You will do enough judging of yourself, you don’t need someone else to do it for you.

They were honest with me.  Remember, we talked before about friends being able to see your situation more objectively.  They are going to tell you the truth.  Believe me, it’s not always easy to hear.  A good friend is willing to risk your anger, in order to tell you the truth.  Later, after your situation has calmed down, you will be grateful they had the courage to tell you the truth.

They made my friendship a priority.  Once you see a friend is in need, you will have to make a point to check on them regularly.  It doesn’t have to be 24/7 support, but calling or stopping by more than usual is necessary.  People in tough times isolate themselves.  They don’t want to face the problem or the people they hurt, so they shut out the world.  A good friend is able to see through the isolation and bring them back into the world, by making their friendship a priority.

How do you define friendship in tough times?   How do you reach out to others when the tough times belong to you?♥


P.S.  My Mom and I worked on this entry together.  She had some excellent points and I thank her for sharing all her words of wisdom.

The dictionary defines collaboration as “to work jointly with others or together especially in an intellectual endeavor”.  Collaboration in my world of fashion means that all parties involved in making the garment from design through production are putting their best collective effort into making a fantastic garment.  I absolutely love when this happens!  I regularly walk through the department stores looking at the garments that I have worked on in the development process.  Occasionally, more often than not, I end up purchasing something because I know that every person who touched this garment in the development process did a superior job.  These garments are like little works of art to me.  They are an example of collaboration at it’s best.

Collaboration, for me, is surrounding myself with people who are better than I am, in any situation.  Do you know why?  Because they elevate me.  It’s so simple.  I want to be around people and environments that push me to the next level.  This can be in a work situation or in a personal situation.  The power we have when sharing ideas and working together as a group is limitless…

How does collaboration fit into your life?  Do you see it as a benefit?  Have you grown from these experiences?  I would love to hear some stories…

Ok people,  I feel the need to elaborate on yesterday’s post about THE LIST!  I’d like to tell you about my list.  Here goes…

I have been carrying around a small piece of paper in my wallet for the past 10 years with all the characteristics that I am looking for in a potential partner.  My written list has about 25 items and it is in detail.  I have an additional list in my mind that is laminated.  By laminated, I mean it is built to last and not too flexible!   I prop it up next to me (hypothetically, of course!) every time I am in a social situation where I am meeting someone new.  With in the first few minutes of talking with someone, I simultaneously check my mental list.  I’m telling you that there are very few men who can meet this list.  Yet, I continue to carry it with me, like a shield of armor to keep people away.  This is so hard to admit, as I would like nothing more than to welcome love into my life.  In addition, now you know just how crazy I am!

Here’s the funny part, my last boyfriend had 90% of all the qualities I was looking for on my written list!  The laminated mental list was another story.  You know what, it still wasn’t enough!  Sadly, we had to part ways.  I’m telling you this because THE LIST is flawed.  There is a certain amount of magic about love.  It isn’t always going to appear in the form you’ve described in your list.  If you never look up from your list, you might miss some pretty magical people…  

Let go of THE LIST.♥

P.S.  I am going to tear up my written list and melt my laminated mental list… I will keep you posted!

I was watching Dr. Drew yesterday.  He has a show on TV called Life Changers.  He talks mostly about relationships, from the male perspective.  It’s kind of interesting, as we are all so used to watching women talk about their issues all the time.   Anyway, the theme of the show yesterday was dating makeovers.  He took a man and a woman and he showed them how to meet and date in a positive way.  It was interesting, because both of them were working from THE LIST.  You know a list of requirements that we all have when searching for a potential mate.  

SO, he did an experiment, where he used the man’s list, (ex: single, over 5’11”, willing to cook for me, etc) to eliminate the female audience members until he had found a “perfect” match for the man.  It was so funny, even in the small audience sample, he narrowed his choices to 2 women within the first three items on the list.  Everyone in the audience started to laugh!  He hadn’t even gotten to the heart of his list and he had already eliminated a large majority of his potential dates.

THE LIST has to go!  It keeps your mind closed to the hundreds of potential partners that would share their love.  We’ve got to be open to other people as a whole, to investigate and really see what they are like inside, before we can decide if they are good for us.  Let go of the list the next time you meet someone new.  Just get to know them as they are and see what develops.  You might be surprised!

Well, let me just jump right in… I am human, I make mistakes and much to my dismay, I hurt people.  The last part, about hurting people is the worst of all.  You know why I do all of these things?  Because I am human and imperfect.

When I realized that I was on the executive board of the Perfectionist Corporation, I was horrified.  I mean, the first commandment of Perfectionism, is that you don’t make mistakes, therefore you can’t hurt anyone.  Perfectionism also keeps you from living life fully.  I mean, you can’t just go and be in the world, what if you make a mistake or the wrong choice?  So perfectionism is isolating.

When you recognize that YOU are only human, you also have to recognize that your friends and loved ones are human also.  So, they are going to hurt you.  They are going to make mistakes and display unflattering characteristics.  You will have to accept them for who they are, just as you will have to accept yourself as you really are…warts and all!  You will have to just open your heart and love, without the perfection.  This statement is so huge for me.  I mean, I just recently acknowledged my deep roots in the Perfectionist Corporation.  I see that my allegiance to this group keeps me stuck and isolated from people and places that are very enriching.

The beauty in all of us as human beings, is that we are perfect in our imperfection.  We are unique.  Loving the whole, instead of the just the perfect parts, leads to greater understanding and peace.  I wish this for all of you, but mostly I wish this for myself…as it has taken me a long time to get here.♥

P.S.  for all of you who I have hurt, knowingly or otherwise, I am sorry.

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