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A friend forwarded me this image the other day…  It made me laugh out loud!  I have an August birthday, so I am a Lion by birth.  Also, because I used to have a cat named Mosie who looked just like the kitty in the picture.  His body resembled the kitty, but his personality was definitely like the Lion.  We spent 8 years together as roommates, before he died.    He was not my friend, or my son, he was my roommate.  We struggled and fought and ignored and occasionally loved each other, but he was hands down the most loyal companion and highly protective.   He had this whole self-image thing down.  He saw himself as a LION every day.  Even when he clearly looked like the kitty!

Working in the fashion industry is all about image.  It’s constant scrutiny and very subjective.  One day you are IN, the next you are OUT.  It can take its toll on your self-image over time.  I often wonder if it’s really a good idea to bring young men and women into the industry so early…  You have to be so strong inside.

Seeing yourself  for the natural beauty inside is the most wonderful thing, it brings you peace.    When you express yourself in your most authentic form in the world, no amount of outside scrutiny can deplete you.  Living authentically is a source of beauty 24/7.   All that other outside stuff is just fluff!  So…  How are you going to see yourself today?  Why not take a lesson from Mosie and see yourself as the perfect LION that you are?  ♥

Today is a gorgeous day in Brooklyn.  It’s completely clear and the sky and water are the most beautiful shades of blue…  Especially the water.  It’s that perfect combination of green and blue.

I rode my bike to the Brooklyn Bridge to sit in the sunshine and have coffee.  I positioned myself in front of the carousel which was full of little kids!  There must have been some event happening, because I was suddenly swarmed by 2-year-old little boys and girls.  My God, they are so cute and so funny.  It was a bit like being swarmed by bees, but in a good way.  What I noticed most about them, is they smile and laugh with their entire body… I mean how can you not be hypnotized by such beauty!

They must have been handing out balloons for this event, because they were flying all over the place.  The colors painted such a pretty picture against that brilliant blue sky.  Out of the corner of my eye, I saw a little boy running along with a red balloon.  He suddenly let go of the balloon!  The wind took it and it floated over the railing and down to the water.  Oh dear, his face… first it was total disbelief, then came the sadness.  I looked at him and said “OH, NO”!  He clouded up and rained just like a storm.  His Dad, was quickly by his side, comforting him and telling him it would be ok.  It was so sweet to watch.

What happened next is another example of magic in the Universe.  That balloon, floated up from the water, back over the railing, directly across the walkway and into the hands of the little boy!  I swear on my grandma’s grave!  OMG… I mean, I started looking around.  Did anyone else see that?  It was fantastic!  The little boy’s face was just pure joy.  That moment was right out of a movie.  It was, in my mind, a complete example of heaven on earth.  I sat for a moment, so humbled by this beautiful sight.

Letting go of a balloon is a lot like losing something you love in life.  The instant it happens is so heart wrenching.  Seeing this on a child’s face is a perfect example of how we, as adults, feel on the inside.   What if letting go is for the greater good?  Maybe we’ve been clinging to something that needs to be released.  What if letting go will actually free you to RECEIVE what is really yours?   Just like the red balloon that found its way home to the little boy.  ♥

I was out to dinner with a good friend the other night.  We were discussing a series of events that had transpired in her life since I last saw her.  Her description of the journey made me think of a really fun ride at an amusement park, thrills and laughs at the same time!

Have you ever thought of life as an amusement park?  Think of the park itself.  It’s got something for everyone.  There are games, parks, water features, food, shopping, benches… and of course the RIDES!!  I am a big fan of the rides.  The roller coasters are my favorite.  They have unexpected twists and turns, big highs and deep valleys,  speed and slow motion.  I recently rode the famous Coney Island Cyclone.  It did not disappoint!  I loved every minute of it and I smiled for days afterward.

Life can be like a really fun ride… There are some highs and lows and a lot of little twists and turns, but the end result of the journey brings a smile to your face and a fond memory of the trip.  Start looking at your journey in this way.  Add some new adventures if you seem to be missing the fun.  ♥

I was out with friends the other night to see an off-Broadway play.  Broadway plays are performed in the big theaters that hold 500 seats or more.  Off-Broadway plays are performed in smaller more intimate theaters all over the city.  Visiting these theaters is sometimes as good as seeing the play, as many of them are full of great architecture and character.  

This night was all impromptu.  My friends called last-minute to ask if I would join them to see this play written by their friend.  I immediately said yes and our adventure was under way.  When we arrived at the theater, we took the “sketchy” elevator to the 4rth floor.  The doors opened to this cozy living room with deep couches and an antique bar.  After a glass of wine, we all entered the room that held the stage.

The play itself was dark and heavy, but even though there were no big sets or props, we were all instantly transported into the world dreamed up by the author.  It was amazing to see this snippet of another world created in the simplicity of an old theater.  As the play finished, we all acknowledged the great acting and writing.

Stepping out to catch the elevator down, the unexpected happened.  The elevator was out of service, so we needed to take the stairs down to the street.  As my friend opened the door to the stairs, I saw the most intricate and beautiful staircase!  It was an iron cylinder with spiral, marble stairs wrapping their way down around it.  WOW! I mean it was amazing.  I spent the good part of the next 20 minutes trying to capture it with my iPhone camera.  The detail and design were so unique.  Even the aging process of the marble, iron and brass came together to make so much beauty.

This lovely, old staircase made me think that life is unexpected.  Around the corner of your everyday routine, there can be so much magic and beauty, we just have to appreciate and share it.  Remembering to stop and appreciate the unexpected things that appear on your path in life is another way to live in the moment and really cherish life.  The next time you encounter the beauty of something unexpected, stop and absorb its magic… ♥

So…    as I grew up in a very small town, in a rural community, I am by geography a farmer.  Now, living in the big city, I still try to dig in the dirt as much as possible.  I have a small garden on my patio, that I prune, plant and water.  I have the most gorgeous rose growing in a pot.  Its the kind of rose that gives these rouge colored flowers.  I live to see this thing blooming.  It starts to give blooms around May of every year and keeps producing well  into October.  She is a fellow spirit of mine and she gives me so much joy.

This summer was a hot one and during the middle of July, my gorgeous rose started to die!  I had to prune away more than half of her arms.  I cut them way back, almost too far…  I was thinking to myself that I might lose my gorgeous friend.  I continued to water and care for her, just as I would if she were healthy.  This morning as I went outside to check the plants, to my surprise, she was back in full swing.  The arms that I had so aggressively cut back were almost completely regrown!  They were also full of new blooms.  You can imagine my delight…

The rose made me think of how we all go through periods of rebirth in life.  I have had quite a few.  I’ve seen people I love go through some tough ones as well.  It seems very dark during that “pruning” process.  Letting go of the parts of ourselves that die off is a natural process.  You know what?  It frees up our energy to birth something totally new.  That is the beautiful miracle of rebirth.

What kind of rebirth do you experience in your own life?

Timing is such an important part of life.  I think about this every time I miss a train by seconds.  You dash down the subway stairs only to find those doors slammed shut in your face!  There is always another train, but what might have been different in your day had you just made that connection?

I have had many examples of great timing in my life, both personally and professionally.  I specifically remember taking my first apartment in NYC.  I had just moved from Atlanta to New York.  I was suffering some serious culture shock!  I had been looking for apartments with no success.  I was scheduled to see another apartment after work on a summer night.  I remember standing at the top of the subway steps thinking that I did not want to go.  It was hot and stinky in the subway and I had worked a long stressful day.  For some reason, “divine timing”, I decided to get on the train.  I ended up getting this beautiful apartment through a series of serendipitous events that evening.  Living in that apartment would provide me with a great new circle of friends and a peaceful place to call home for many years.  The timing was divine!

There is a certain magic about the timing of events.  I like to think that timing is always right…

If you seem to be missing a lot of connections in life, whether personally or professionally, the universe might just be protecting you from the wrong connection.  It is your job to trust and keep moving forward without being discouraged.  The right connection is just around the corner and all you have to do is ENTER!  ♥

I read something yesterday that made me stop and think about how life can hand you some tough decisions.  They are gut wrenching.  You know, you’re going down the road and everything is fine, then… appearing on the horizon is this thing.  It’s way in front of you.  You can’t really even see it, but it causes you some discomfort.  It’s the decision that you know you need to make.   You may be reminded daily by your eye twitching, stomach pains, restless sleep, etc.  You think these will just pass and you will be on down the road.  In reality, these physical signs are the road markers of a tough decision on the horizon.

Tough decisions are not for the faint of heart, they require courage.  They ask us to be true to our most authentic selves.   What happens when you really listen to your own heart and act on it?  People in our lives might be hurt or disappointed.  We, ourselves might be hurt or disappointed.  There is no guarantee for a better road after making a tough decision.

I believe that every time we flex our tough decision muscle, it becomes stronger.  The ability to risk and the courage required to act are strengthened.  The next time a tough decision comes along, less time is spent agonizing about the outcome and more time is spent producing the outcome.

Making the tough decision also reminds us that we are always in the driver’s seat of our lives. Living an active life created by our own decisions is the best gift we can give ourselves and the world.  So, the next time your are reminded of a tough decision, why not shift into 4WD and accelerate?  It might be the best road yet! ♥

I read this great quote the other day about influence, “the key to successful leadership today is influence, not authority”, by Kenneth Blanchard.  It is a thought provoking quote.  I’m assuming the author is speaking of business relationships, but what about your personal circle of influence?

My wheels are turning at this thought…  Webster’s defines the verb form of influence as:  the power or capacity of causing an effect in indirect or intangible ways.  What I like about this definition is the use of the word intangible.  It’s not something we can touch, but it effects us just the same.  So many things influence us in our daily lives.  Imagine writing down every possible way we are influenced throughout our day.  I think you would need a lot of paper!

There are both good and bad influences.  Most importantly, people are influencers.  The people you surround yourself with can change you and it’s not always positive or apparent immediately.  It can be cumulatively destructive.

I like to surround myself with people who are better than me, not in the material sense, but the spiritual sense.  They carry good energy.  I can learn from them and they influence me, just by being themselves in the world.  I have grown so much in my life by having them around and I am grateful for their gift of friendship and love.

Think about your circle of influence.  How do you influence others?  How are you influenced?  Make your circle a beautiful ball of light that is both lifting and lifted in your world. ♥

This a line from Lifetime, by the artist Maxwell.  He’s got the most soothing voice, honestly, he could sing the phone book and I would like it!  Every time I hear this song, that phrase catches my attention.  Love is not a fairy tale in a melody…

The words themselves are very beautiful, because they are so honest.  They speak directly to the concept a lot of us have that love is a fairy tale.  Most of us are raised reading fairy tales as bed time stories.  There is always a prince charming or princess of some kind.  There is usually a tragedy involved, and some how the prince comes to rescue the princess.  All the while, there are birds chirping and flowers blooming, amidst a sweet melody in the background.  It’s no wonder our concept of love is sorely tested when it actually appears in our real life.

Real life love is lot more rigorous and it requires an effort.  It comes in disguise and often times is discovered, rather than just apparent.  It has shadows and dark places that push boundaries.  It makes you weak and strong at the same time.  Living a life in love is probably the hardest job any of us will ever have, but it’s so worth it….  Love is the greatest gift we can give or receive,  just like the words of a beautiful melody. ♥

I know you are laughing right now!  I mean, who doesn’t know that “WD-40” can fix any problem you have around the house?  “WD” stands for water displacing and “40” indicates the number of tries it took them to get the formula right… but I digress, its lip gloss I really want to discuss! I have watched women of all ages, races, social status, and religion,  pull out lip gloss and it apply it when they are in a pinch.

This application of lip gloss fixes many common problems associated with womanhood.  For example, did you know, when you are feeling extra blue, applying lip gloss will instantly pick up your mood.  Some believe the heaviness in application, has a direct correlation to the mood of the wearer!  Now I’m laughing.  I’ve seen women reapply lip gloss in regular intervals, just as a protective measure.  Young women think lip gloss makes them look so mature and older women use the reverse logic.  Purchasing lip gloss, is as good as buying an insurance policy against the blues.  

What I like most about lip gloss is that it makes us remember ourselves for a moment.  It’s a little kiss we give ourselves.  Sometimes that little moment is more healing and uplifting than any gesture from our friends or family.  So ladies, let the lip gloss flow!  Buy extras, to keep in emergency locations, experiment with brighter colors and give it as gifts.  The next time someone asks for a can of WD-40, you know what to hand them… your lip gloss!

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