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I’ve been checking out other blogs for the past couple days.  Suddenly, I realize that other people are writing these beautiful posts about life and their experience of it.  I am humbled by their words, the honesty with which they share, and the messages they are sending through the universe.  It’s very inspirational.

Blogging for me, has been about self discovery and healing.  The exercise and discipline of writing a new entry each day has lead me on an unusual journey.  The entries I have written are not at all what I was expecting to create, yet as I reread them, they are “just right” for my journey.  I wonder how many other bloggers are discovering the same thing as they write?  We are discovering ourselves in a new way.  I love this journey of writing and what it inspires in myself and others.  The dialog we create connects us with like souls and ignites conversations that would otherwise not happen.  The more honestly we share with each other and the world, the better our journey becomes.  

So, for all of you fellow bloggers… keep discovering and keep writing, I’m witnessing some greatness! ♥

You know sometimes in your life everything seems to fall into place?  You are just witnessing the events and following the chain. It seems as though all is right in the world.  This is called Flow.  Flow is like being in a river, moving with the water, it feels effortless.  I love going with the flow…

What about the times in life when ITS NOT FLOWING?  You know, you’re stuck.  You are in a rut and every best effort you put forward leads to a brick wall.  I have had my share of “no flow”.  It’s frustrating!  How do you rediscover your flow?  Honestly, it’s a mystery to me.

The most important thing to remember when you are out of flow, is to keep trying… try EVERYTHING.  Say yes, to all kinds of invitations, opportunities, people, jobs, and events that you would otherwise decline.  It’s possible that the flow you are looking for is with you already, but you are looking in the opposite direction.  Look around, change the glasses you’ve been wearing to examine your situation and your  world.  Be aware of what’s new in your old situation.  You’ve got to have faith that flow will return to you.

Wait and see… being open to the new, might just drop you right back into that flowing river! ♥

I’ve been watching Seabiscuit on HBO.  Let’s just say I’ve seen this movie a lot!  The horse is born to be a thoroughbred, but along the way, is categorized as “less than”.  Over time he is trained to lose races to give other, more promising horses some confidence from the win.  He is eventually picked up by an unlikely owner, trainer, and jockey  and given an opportunity to regain his lost magic.   Once he is given the attention and training he deserves, he begins to win races and reclaim his thoroughbred status.

All this discussion of thoroughbred status made me think about the old myth that horses are sent to “the glue factory” when they become out of commission.  At some point, a determination is made whether they have value or not, and this decision is made by an outsider.  Once they reach “the glue factory”, it’s the end of the line.

You know, we are all thoroughbreds inside, right from the very beginning.  Society has a way of making us feel like the “glue pony” from time to time.  We get side tracked, wait listed, passed over, and any number of wrong directions sent our way.  You may find yourself rethinking your own status.  Are you a thoroughbred or a glue pony?  Who determined your status?  Are you living like a glue pony, when you should be living like a thoroughbred?  Refuse to settle for anything less than the thoroughbred you are! ♥

Happy New Year everyone!  The end of one year and the beginning of another are always so loaded with emotion.  Reflection on the events of the past year and the hopes for the year ahead are surrounding you.  Today I wanted to remind you to listen to the universe when it talks to you and to learn to recognize messages that are meant to help you along your journey in life…

Since I started this blog, I have been writing about events that are important to me and my journey.  What I see very clearly as I read through previous entries, is that the universe has been talking to me.  By “Universe”, I mean the higher power that connects us all on this earth.  You can define it in whatever way you choose.  For me, messages often come through complete strangers.  I’ll give you an example…

I was shoe shopping the other day.  I was trying on this ridiculously high pair of heels.  As soon as I put my foot in these shoes, this woman appeared around the corner.  She said how beautiful they looked on my feet.  I started laughing, as I knew that I could not walk to the corner in these shoes.  The shoes were a dream for me.  I turned to her and said, “they’re a dream, right”?  She laughed and turned to walk away.  This is where I got surprised by the universe.  For some reason, this woman turned around and came back to me, looked me straight in the eye and told me “dreams come true”!  She went on to tell me how many of the dreams she had for herself had come true in her life.  I was really humbled by this moment, as I needed to hear those words at this point in my life.  I thanked her and we shared a beautiful moment between total strangers.

The universe talks in other ways also.  It can be something in nature.  Something that keeps appearing to you outside, animals, trees, the sky…something on the sidewalk or in the air.  Remember the post I wrote about the butterfly?  How she appeared to me in the middle of all of the noise and traffic in NYC.  Your body sends messages to you as well.  Notice how your body feels when you are in different situations or around different people.  Your body is so smart and it is your greatest ally in life.   Being connected to these feelings and signals is a true asset in the quest for peace and health.

For 2012, I’m challenging all of you to be open to these messages and to take them in to your heart.  You may not always know the meaning of the message.  Others will be so direct that you cannot ignore them.  Just be patient and sit with these messages, they will make sense in time.   You will begin to become a navigator on your journey in life, with the universe and its messages, your trusted advisor.  ♥

Wishing you all the peace and love that you can hold in 2012!  


I’ve been thinking about this for a long time, and I touched on some of it in my post yesterday about commodities in the game of worthiness.  I have a theory about how society uses certain sets of physical, mental, and social commodities as a kind of currency, when it comes to dating. 

Let’s explore an example.  Take Jane, who is 5’11”, 120 lbs., has long dark hair, olive skin, is college educated, owns her own business, and comes from a wealthy family.  She would have a high commodity value.  In the financial market, she would be an in demand stock, in the dating world, we would call her a “catch”.

Now, let’s look at Joan, she is 5’6″, 175 lbs., has curly hair, freckles, did not go to college, works for the local supermarket, and has no parents.  Is her commodity value lower, than Jane? By all societal standards, the answer is yes, but is she really?  How does she know where she fits in the commodities structure?

I can even go a step further, let’s look at Diana.  She is 5’7″, 110 lbs., has shoulder length brown hair, lives at home with her parents, and is not college educated.  Is her commodity value higher than Joan because she is smaller and has longer hair?  Will she get more dates because of these qualities, even though she is living at home?  I mean this is all just theory talking.  I want your opinion on this.  Let’s get the discussion going.

How have you experienced the commodities market?  How do you compare yourself to others when entering the dating pool?  Do you let this assigned value determine your worthiness?  I am here to tell you again, you in your most authentic form are the highest commodity value.  Don’t let society determine where you fall in the market.  Rate yourself A+.♥

Today is 11, 11,11!  Wow, such a great set of numbers.  I’ve been surfing the net all day reading about the significance of this group of numbers and I’m kind of sorry that I didn’t play the lotto today…

Anyway, let’s just compare this to hitting the reset button on your computer.  Let go of all the negative baggage you have been carrying around for the last however many years and START OVER.  I mean, let’s just get right to it, we have a chance each day to begin again.  We can look at our lives, our selves, our loved ones and the world with fresh eyes.  We can savour and delight in the day and the wonders of our lives on the planet at this time.  We can feel the fresh energy and love flowing through our bodies creating light and space in every cell.  We can share this new-found life force with our loved ones and the world.  ♥

Happy 11.11.11!  Make this your best restart ever!

The Don’t Quit poem is one of my favorites.  In my family the saying was ” a quitter never wins, and a winner never quits”.  There are times in life where you can feel pretty defeated.  You probably ask yourself, how did I get here?  Then, you review all the little decisions or non-decisions from your past.  Now, you are really swimming in the defeat and you feel hopeless.

The challenge you face might seem insurmountable, but you must KEEP GOING.  As the poem states, “success is failure turned inside out”.  You never know what is around the corner.  It might be the best moment of your life!

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
When the road you’re trudging seems all uphill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest, if you must, but don’t you quit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As every one of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about,
When he might have won had he stuck it out;
Don’t give up though the pace seems slow–
You may succeed with another blow.

Often the goal is nearer than,
It seems to a faint and faltering man,
Often the struggler has given up,
When he might have captured the victor’s cup,
And he learned too late when the night slipped down,
How close he was to the golden crown.

Success is failure turned inside out–
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,
And you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems so far,
So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit–
It’s when things seem worst that you must not quit.

– Author unknown

John Mayer lays it right out there, “Say what you need to say … even if your hands are shaking…or your faith is broken…”

What would you say if you had no limits?  Who would you say it to?  Would it be someone you love or maybe yourself?  When you say what you need to say from your heart, the world begins to sparkle.  You see events, people, and nature as you’ve never seen them before.  Your heart will swell with all the beauty surrounding you.  You will be free in your own mind.  Love will swallow your heart and make you glow.  Instead of existing in this world, you begin to LIVE!

All the joy, love and life that you have been wishing for is in front of you.  DEVOUR IT!  Just say what you need to say…

You know about fear, right?  It’s that feeling in the pit of your stomach when you know what you must do, but haven’t started the action.  You hear the little voice inside sometimes in a whisper, sometimes in a scream, but always begging to be heard.  Fear makes you want to turn the volume down on this voice.  You want to run from it or bury it.  You see the picture I’m painting…

What we don’t explore is what’s on the other side of fear.  Facing a fear can be TRANSFORMATIONAL!  Stepping in to fear takes courage, but the payoff on the other side is so worthwhile.  Each time you face a fear, whether it is big or small, you build a little more strength and courage.  You stand a little taller, smile a little brighter, walk a little lighter…you evolve as a person.  ♥

So, the next time FEAR is staring you down or screaming in your ear, how are you going to answer it?  

I had the pleasure of attending a women’s healing circle on Friday night.  We met to share fellowship and gather strength from each other as we enter the holiday season.  The guest speaker for the night was a student of Buddhism and teaches meditation to the community.  She gave us many insights and tools for coping with our holiday schedules and relationships.  It was a wonderful night where complete strangers came to know each other as friends by gathering in a circle and sharing our thoughts about life.  

One of the most powerful meditations we practiced that night was to see each other not just as women, but to see each other as the light of the universe, in the form of a woman.  So, through the meditation, we gazed around the circle, acknowledging this light in each other.  It was so beautiful and moving.

I started to think about what it would be like to look for this light in each person you encounter through your day.  What kind of vision do you need to be able to see this light?  I don’t think its anything special.  It’s just a practice of looking for the beauty and light in someone before you see the other stuff.  You are recognizing something in them that comes from a much deeper place.  When you acknowledge this light in them, you see that the two of you are really connected by the same source.  It’s a great experiment.  In this way, we see that we are all brothers and sisters of a larger universal family.  ♥

Try this experiment for yourself.  How does it make you feel to see this beautiful light in a total stranger?  What kind of light do you see in yourself?

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