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A friend forwarded me this image the other day…  It made me laugh out loud!  I have an August birthday, so I am a Lion by birth.  Also, because I used to have a cat named Mosie who looked just like the kitty in the picture.  His body resembled the kitty, but his personality was definitely like the Lion.  We spent 8 years together as roommates, before he died.    He was not my friend, or my son, he was my roommate.  We struggled and fought and ignored and occasionally loved each other, but he was hands down the most loyal companion and highly protective.   He had this whole self-image thing down.  He saw himself as a LION every day.  Even when he clearly looked like the kitty!

Working in the fashion industry is all about image.  It’s constant scrutiny and very subjective.  One day you are IN, the next you are OUT.  It can take its toll on your self-image over time.  I often wonder if it’s really a good idea to bring young men and women into the industry so early…  You have to be so strong inside.

Seeing yourself  for the natural beauty inside is the most wonderful thing, it brings you peace.    When you express yourself in your most authentic form in the world, no amount of outside scrutiny can deplete you.  Living authentically is a source of beauty 24/7.   All that other outside stuff is just fluff!  So…  How are you going to see yourself today?  Why not take a lesson from Mosie and see yourself as the perfect LION that you are?  ♥

This is a difficult one to write, so it must mean I should keep going.  They always say, if you are afraid to do something, that means you MUST do it.  Here goes…    Can anyone really be OK with alone?  

There are times in life when you are just alone in it.  It’s quiet, not the quiet I wrote about yesterday, but seriously quiet.  It can be when you first move away from home, when your kids move out of the house, when you divorce, when your spouse or pet dies.  There are any number of reasons for this to occur, but you feel it.  There is no one at the door or in the kitchen when you arrive at the end of the day.  You see it, right?

Alone usually comes with a big transition in life, as the examples I mentioned above.  When you find yourself in the middle of this alone, how do you fill up your time?  The obvious things come to mind, like friends, neighbors, classes, projects, travel, etc.  The more you schedule, the less time you have to realize that you are alone!  Mostly, I think it’s about reaching out so that people know you are alone.  You may need additional phone time or drop by visits from your friends until you are through the transition.  What keeps you from feeling alone when you are not engaged in your schedule?  I started to write for this very reason and I have been both surprised and delighted by the community of bloggers who are there to share the journey with me.

Even more than that, I’ve had to learn that alone is OK.  This is a huge statement.  We spend so much of our lives trying to find that perfect partner or situation, so we will be guaranteed there is no alone.  One way or another, life will hand you alone time.  The relationship you have with yourself is what’s most important.  Learning to be your own friend and feeling loved and cared for by YOU, is one of the best skills you can have in life.  What does alone feel like for you?  How can you develop that relationship with yourself?  ♥

I’ve been checking out other blogs for the past couple days.  Suddenly, I realize that other people are writing these beautiful posts about life and their experience of it.  I am humbled by their words, the honesty with which they share, and the messages they are sending through the universe.  It’s very inspirational.

Blogging for me, has been about self discovery and healing.  The exercise and discipline of writing a new entry each day has lead me on an unusual journey.  The entries I have written are not at all what I was expecting to create, yet as I reread them, they are “just right” for my journey.  I wonder how many other bloggers are discovering the same thing as they write?  We are discovering ourselves in a new way.  I love this journey of writing and what it inspires in myself and others.  The dialog we create connects us with like souls and ignites conversations that would otherwise not happen.  The more honestly we share with each other and the world, the better our journey becomes.  

So, for all of you fellow bloggers… keep discovering and keep writing, I’m witnessing some greatness! ♥

I’m sure you’ve all heard the notion,“don’t make waves”.  You know, things are going along, okay, not great, but you are surviving.  You think, if I make this change or that change, what will happen?  Fear steps in, the unknown takes over and paralyzes you from making a diversion from the same old thing.  This idea ,”don’t make waves”, applies to all areas of your life.  It could be in your personal relationship with your partner or child, your work relationships, or your relationship with yourself.  You know which scenario best applies to  your situation.

Ladies,  sometimes, we have to make waves.  This is what moves us forward in life.  We can only begin to be our best selves through evolution, that requires change.  It is SCARY!  You will be full of fear when making a wave.  Fear is paralyzing.  Facing a fear and moving through it with courage is truly transformational.  The outcome is secondary.  The lesson you learn about yourself is primary.  You are a strong, courageous woman, who faces challenges head on without fear.  It might be painful and there will be setbacks, but the impact that it has on your spirit is profound.

Today is a day to make waves…

Today I had the privilege  of attending a dance recital for young ballerinas.  Wow, it was such a treat!  All those shining faces and beautiful smiles, not to mention the costumes.  They were all glowing from wearing those fluffy tutus!  I remember what that felt like.  I remember the pink leotard and the tutu made of layers and layers of pink tulle.  I felt like a princess.  I imagined all these wonderful things that are associated with princesses.  You know the castle, the pearls, the diamonds, the prince…all of it.  It was just the best feeling, all that fantasy.  The world was alive with possibility and abundance.  The other great thing about that costume and the dance recital was the praise for my participation.  Everyone told me how gorgeous I was and what a great job I did.  I’m sure I forgot my steps and forgot to smile, but this didn’t matter, I was all that mattered.  Blissful.

Honestly, I was thinking while they were performing, how could I make a skirt that some how involved pink tulle that wouldn’t make me look like a kindergartener.  I was actually working this through in my mind.  So funny, what I was really reaching for was that feeling I got from wearing the tutu as a young girl.

What I’m saying to you today is don’t forget this little girl who lives in us all.  Even if your life is not exactly the way you planned and all those “princessy” things seem to have alluded you.   You are all that matters.  You are the princess of your own life, so celebrate it!

Next time you see a little girl in a ballerina costume, remember that great women begin in little packages.

Let’s face it, our lives today are extremely busy.  We have personal and professional commitments that keep us running from morning to night and sometimes well beyond.  Managing the calendar for most people is a  full-time job.  The lists of things to do grows daily.

Do you put yourself on the list?  Women are givers and doers by nature.  It seems that everyone else’s needs come before our own.  Especially if you are a mother, you may feel that you can’t even think about putting yourself on the list.  The thing is, you are not unlimited.  Running yourself ragged with no time to recharge or attend to your own needs is detrimental in the long run.  I find that when I do something for myself, my capacity to do for others actually expands.  When I’m not taking care of myself, I am resentful and often cranky about what I must do for others.

Put yourself on the list when it comes to clothing, as well.  You don’t have to buy a bunch of new clothes, but having a few key items that make you feel great, goes a long way to enhancing your mood.  I call these “go to” outfits.   My favorite is a faded pair of blue jeans and a simple blue oxford shirt.  When I put this on, I feel immediately like myself.  Another favorite is a black knit maxi dress.  I am instantly comfortable and chic at the same time!

Spend some time in your closet, you may even want to invite a friend.  Go through and eliminate things that you don’t wear, or don’t fit.  When you are done,  organize your closet and make a section for  a few “go to” outfits.  The next time you are feeling low on the list, you’ll be able to grab one of those outfits for a pick me up.

What ways can you put yourself on the list?  How can you remember to keep yourself there?

I looked up Authentic in the dictionary today.  It has many different meanings, but the one I’m speaking of is  “true to one’s own personality, spirit, or character”.  This is such a big word and topic, I’m not sure I’ll be able to do it justice in a small blog paragraph.  Let’s just start the dialogue and let it keep growing!

Authentically living your life takes courage and awareness.  The awareness comes from being willing to recognize who you are in the midst of all the roles you play in your daily life.  You know, you are a daughter, a sister, a friend, a co-worker, a mother, and the list goes on and on.  With so many roles to play, it can be easy to lose yourself.  Also, by playing these roles, you can end up trying to meet other’s expectations, rather than listening to your own voice.  Now comes the courage part.  It takes courage to listen and hear your own voice, in the midst of all these roles, and act on it.  You may hear your voice, but not like the information, so you turn down the volume.  If you really don’t like what your voice is saying, you can completely shut it off.  Now you are no longer living authentically.  Boy, is that tiring and it keeps you from experiencing the joy of being you.

Clothing is such an expression of self.  Think of the power that clothing has in the world.  Especially all the designer labels that are used as status symbols.  Companies spend millions of dollars hoping you will buy in to their look.  Fashion magazines are full of ideas about how you should look for every occasion.   The funny thing is, you always know when you are wearing something that is really suits you, your whole face lights up.  What I’m getting at here is to use clothing as expression of  your authentic self, not what some celebrity or magazine suggests is “you”.  Be aware of what you like and what suits you and then courageous enough to wear it, even if it’s not what the fashion magazines are promoting.

Being authentic is the best gift you could ever give yourself and give the world.

What kinds of clothing make you feel most authentic?

A large part of my day as a fit model is spent walking the streets of NYC to meet with clients.  Especially on 7th Avenue, I see every imaginable kind of style and body type.  All that variety, all those combinations of humanity and fashion are sometimes dizzying.  I know that we all want to look our best each day as we leave the house.  I find that women with great style know just what to wear and what to leave at home.  Someone once told me that before you leave in the morning, take one thing off, because Less is More.

I am completely guilty of the More mentality.  I am in constant search for the next great accessory or item of clothing that is going to make me fabulous.  My closets are full of great bags, shoes, dresses, jewelry, and earrings all to meet some standard of more.  Practicing less is new for me.  Being beautiful in your body and your life doesn’t require more, it requires less!  You are enough to make anything look fabulous.  Imagine all the money I could have saved if I had figured this out earlier. ♥

Tomorrow morning when you get dressed, experiment with less.  Let me know how it goes!

Today I’ve been thinking about acceptance.  Acceptance is so simple, notice their are no adjectives around the word…it just IS!  Part of being whole in your body and your life is living in acceptance.  When you accept who you are, where you are, what you are doing, something amazing happens, you are free.  Wow, I said it!  I mean FREE.   There is no more waiting for this or that to happen, you are just right in the middle of your life and your body and your world.  Its almost humbling.  When I think of all the years of my life that I have skirted acceptance, it makes me a little sad, for all the lost time.

I’m experimenting these days with being present and accepting who and where I am right now.  I like how peaceful I feel.  It’s like being in a yoga class in pidgeon pose.  You can’t escape that, you are just there.  While you are in that pose, really saturated in it, there are no noises in your head.  When you come out of pidgeon pose, fresh blood rushes to all those joints in the body and energy pulses through your veins.  So, when I’m not always in my head, playing out another fantasy of what my life would be like if I were different, I get to feel that energy and really live my life.  Fantastic!

I’m going to tell you something that its taken me years to learn.  The well dressed woman isn’t wearing Prada, she’s wearing Acceptance and self love.♥

I ran into an old friend today.  It was the nicest surprise.  It came at the end of a long day, when I was feeling tired, hungry, a little sad.  I had not seen him for over 15 years!  Whoa, 15 years, really… yes really.  We went through the usual.  How have you been? How is your family?  Are you still living in the same place?  After that initial rundown, it suddenly became as if we had just picked up where we left off.  You know that comfortable feeling you get when you have a history with someone.  It was a great feeling and it reminded me of all the happy memories from that period of time in my life.  I could not stop smiling and I remembered with such gratitude what a wonderful life I’ve had.

Clothing can be old friends as well.  Its like the cashmere sweater I had for years.  It was passed down to me from someone else.  I wore that thing everywhere!  I even slept in it on occasion.   Finally, after one too many washings, I realized it was a little small for me, so I passed it on to another friend.  Now its providing her with the comfort that it gave me.  I like knowing that it’s still giving.

There’s always at least one item in your closet that carries with it happy memories and feelings of comfort.  What is yours?  You probably have many examples.  These clothes are the quiet friends that give comfort and support without reservation.  They allow us to be ourselves, both at our best and our worst…just like old friends.

Today, I’m giving a salute to Old Friends, in all forms!

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