Have you ever had a dream of something, say a change you want to make in your life, yet you are unable to take the steps to make it happen?  This is probably a silly question, as I think most of us would admit to having a dream of something that is just not happening.

Today, I sat down at my table in my office to start something new.  I am prepared for my dream.  I have the knowledge, the tools, the ideas, and all I can do is type into this blog.  This is beyond frustrating for me.  My dream has been with me for many years.  I have envisioned a pretty office and table, just like the one in front of me.  I know my path in life has led me to this very situation.  Still, I am STUCK in this inactive state.

What keeps people stuck?  If I’m being completely honest, I have no idea.  If I was thinking of helping someone else who is stuck, I would ask some questions.

Are you sure this is your dream?  Is it possible that the dream you fantasize about is not actually what you want, but what keeps you from forging ahead in the life you’ve got.  This question is particularly sobering.  I mean, what if you’ve spent all these years fantasizing about something that not only is NOT going to happen, but probably wouldn’t make you happy anyway….  You see the point I’m making.

What are you afraid of?  Fear is usually a big factor in the dream squashing game.  Are you afraid of failure or success?  Perfectionism also plays a role here.  It might not be perfect, but start something and work from there.

Do you have a plan? Have you written down the actual steps and time line required to materialize your dream?  Does it require education or money?  Will you have to move or change your lifestyle?  Get into the details and really put it down on paper.  Is there a particular section of your plan that makes you anxious?  Break that part up into smaller detail and ask for help if you need it.

Are you asking for support?  When you begin something new, suddenly you are thrust into the unknown.  I think the older we get, the less likely we are to ask for guidance or support.  You feel you’ve already established yourself and you are confident in your knowledge and skill.  Ask for help.  Find a mentor, coach, or even a friend who would be willing to sit with you and your dream.  You might be surprised at what happens.

Let me know what keeps you stuck in your life.  I would love some personal stories and theories about how you move forward.  I’ll keep you posted on my dream.  I already see that I have not completed a lot of the above steps!  🙂

P.S.  (I am available to all of you for support of your dream!)

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